Hello everyone!! Freddie over here!
It's the second time I'm updating something, and I was wondering about what topic I should write about for my second post. Then it came to my mind, "hey! why not give relationship advice on a blog that has got like less than five views!!" So my second page, and the first to be official, will be on... RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!!!
So, first of all, have you ever been in a relationship? Well, you have; because I'm not talking about just lovers, I will be talking about every single genre of relationship that you can have. Family, friends, also lovers, ...and so on(not that I could not think of anything else). There are many advantages and disadvantages in each type of relationships. However, there is one advice that I can give that can be applied to all relationships: it is always better to get rid of the non-profitable relationships as soon as possible.
It may sound cold when I say "non-profitable" but, what I really mean by this is the relationship that you cannot have the proper giving and taking of benefits. There is no way a person can give something without anything in return. No matter how much they believe that they are doing something without self satisfaction, people must know that we all have selfishness in us that we have to satisfy. So the meaning of a profitable relationship would be: a relationship that both, or all, people involved can fill in their ego together. In other words, any relationship that cannot achieve this is just a stressful encounter. Even in a family relationship, when only parents try to achieve their goal, such as making their kids study to become a doctor or something, it is stressful for children to try and respond to the parents' expectations. However, this is not the case every time. If those children really do want to be successful in the future, both the parents and children can match their goal to fulfill both their wills. Likewise, any other relationship should have a fair trade in satisfying their needs.
Therefore, what people really need in a relationship is to get something they want in return. In other words, if you have a relationship you want to hold on to, you have to think of how you can give the other person what they want. But you must be careful, because what you give to the other person to keep the relationship "profitable" may be "non-profitable" for yourself. So you must always think if the relationship that you are having is profitable for both sides, and when you think that it isn't, then it is a sign for you to leave and find someone else to fill in your healthy ego.
It may sound cold when I say "non-profitable" but, what I really mean by this is the relationship that you cannot have the proper giving and taking of benefits. There is no way a person can give something without anything in return. No matter how much they believe that they are doing something without self satisfaction, people must know that we all have selfishness in us that we have to satisfy. So the meaning of a profitable relationship would be: a relationship that both, or all, people involved can fill in their ego together. In other words, any relationship that cannot achieve this is just a stressful encounter. Even in a family relationship, when only parents try to achieve their goal, such as making their kids study to become a doctor or something, it is stressful for children to try and respond to the parents' expectations. However, this is not the case every time. If those children really do want to be successful in the future, both the parents and children can match their goal to fulfill both their wills. Likewise, any other relationship should have a fair trade in satisfying their needs.
Therefore, what people really need in a relationship is to get something they want in return. In other words, if you have a relationship you want to hold on to, you have to think of how you can give the other person what they want. But you must be careful, because what you give to the other person to keep the relationship "profitable" may be "non-profitable" for yourself. So you must always think if the relationship that you are having is profitable for both sides, and when you think that it isn't, then it is a sign for you to leave and find someone else to fill in your healthy ego.
